Unravelling the Weave is as much a story of endurance as it is of grace. What made you decide that now was the right time to tell your story?
Life has taken me through many seasons which have been a mix of moments of triumph and despair, of love and loss, of courage and quiet endurance. I’ve lived through experiences that shaped me, tested me and ultimately revealed the strength that lies within the human spirit. For years, these memories rested quietly in my heart, like scattered pages waiting to be gathered into a story.
Now, I felt it was time to bring them together, not simply to recount my life, but to offer something meaningful to others. Writing this book became my way of giving back to society. I thought of turning personal experiences into insights that might guide, comfort, or inspire.
I’ve especially felt that the youth of today, though bright and talented, often stand at a crossroads where values seem to have blurred. The world moves fast, and in the race to achieve, something essential, values like empathy, respect, resilience, and rootedness often gets left behind. Through my story, I hope to remind them that strength comes not from rebellion alone, but from reflection, responsibility, and a strong inner core.
For women too, who so often carry the invisible weight of expectations, I wanted this book to be a reminder that self-worth and purpose are not defined by circumstance, but by courage and conviction. If my words can make even one person pause, reflect, and reconnect with what truly matters, I will feel this journey has been worth it.
The book feels deeply spiritual, especially in its recurring faith that “nothing moves without His will.” How has this belief shaped the way you’ve faced challenges, both personal and professional?
This book is not just a recollection of experiences. It is, in many ways, a spiritual journey too. Over the years, I have drawn deep strength and understanding from the scriptures that have guided me. During my college years, my study of the Bhagavad Gita left a lasting impression on me. Its philosophy of detachment, purpose, and inner balance became an anchor in times of turmoil. Later, my immersion in the teachings of the Guru Granth Sahib deepened that spiritual awakening. My awakening has nothing to do with religion but from human awareness of worth and being
Both scriptures though distinct in form converge beautifully in their message: to live with integrity, compassion, humility, and the awareness of the Divine within and around us. They teach us not only how to face life’s challenges, but how to conduct ourselves with grace, no matter the circumstance.
As a Sikh, I also carry within me the rich legacy of Sikh history — a faith built on courage, equality, and selfless service. These teachings have been my compass through life’s many trials. The belief in the power of the universe, of divine energy that connects all beings, has become so ingrained in me now that I feel deeply attuned to that spiritual current and have built a type of communication with the universe, which keep me forever stable.
The book, therefore, is not only about resilience and human strength. It is also about faith, surrender, and the quiet power of the universe that sustains us when everything else seems uncertain.
Many readers, especially women, will relate to your message of reinvention. What does “beginning again” mean to you at this stage in life?
For me, reinvention is not about changing who I am. On the contrary, it is about rediscovering what still lives within me. Life has a way of testing our strength, breaking our rhythm, and at times, leaving us unsure of where we belong. But in those pauses, when everything seems to fall apart, lies the quiet opportunity to begin again. We, atleast I become wiser, gentler, and more aware. The best part is that I consciously become that.
Reinvention, for me, has always come from reflection and introspection. For a very short period I wonder why did this happen to me but very quickly turn my attention to find a path on which I can begin walking again and then ponder over what can I learn from it? Each setback became a lesson, each ending a doorway to a new chapter I hadn’t imagined yet.
Beginning again doesn’t mean erasing the past. It means carrying its wisdom lightly, without bitterness. It means forgiving, releasing, and opening oneself once more to life’s possibilities, trusting in the universe and faith in one’s own spirit.
Every time I began again, I discovered that nothing was truly lost. Something within me which was there and I consciously learned to develop. Courage, purpose, or grace slowly but surely had quietly evolved in my nature. That, to me, is the essence of reinvention: not becoming someone new, but returning to who you were meant to be all along.
You write that Unravelling the Weave is not a catalogue of events but a “Weaving of Experiences.” How did you decide what to include and what to leave unsaid?
When I began to write, certain moments surfaced effortlessly which were vivid, alive, and etched deep within memory. These were the experiences that had shaped my being, the ones that whispered lessons of strength, faith, and quiet courage. They carried within them both the struggle and the light and it was through them that I discovered growth.
Yet, there were also silences I chose to preserve. Some memories remained misted and still, frozen in the folds of time. Perhaps they stayed that way because revisiting them would serve no healing, only reopen doors best left closed. Not every truth needs to be retold; some find peace in remaining unspoken.
I have always been guided by a mind that instinctively reaches for brightness that searches for meaning, for beauty, even in moments of despair. And so, what I wrote is what illuminated me, and what I left unsaid is what I quietly forgave. Together, they complete the story and a story not of pain, but of transcendence.
The Teacher and the Writer — Two Voices, One Purpose
From the classroom to the written page, your life has revolved around words and communication. How different did writing this personal memoir feel from writing or teaching professionally?
Honestly speaking, there was never much difference between writing this memoir and teaching professionally. In both, the essence lies in communication, that is, in reaching out, sharing, and creating a connection that touches another mind or heart.
As a lecturer, professor teacher, trainer, I always believed that true education begins when words inspire thought, when they awaken something within. Writing this book felt like an extension of that same belief. The classroom simply changed its form and the transition was so comfortable, from four walls filled with students to the open pages that would speak to readers.
The purpose, however, remained unchanged: to communicate with honesty, to stir reflection and introspection, and to leave behind something of value. Perhaps that is why writing came naturally to me, in fact, it felt like continuing the same conversation, only this time with the wider world.
You’ve faced illness and trials that could have easily dimmed your spirit. What helped you transform those moments into lessons of resilience rather than defeat?
Yes, I have faced many defeats — moments when life felt harsh and unfair, when faith was the only thread holding me together. But each time, I rose again, like the phoenix — not untouched by the fire, but transformed by it.
What sustained me was a deep and abiding belief that the universe is just. If I was ever wronged for no fault of my own, I trusted that there would also be a way out — that despair was never the destination, only a pause before renewal. That faith became my compass. My belief in what goes around comes around and if I have done no wrong why should the universe keep me in the pit for long. The Hand of Waheguru was always on me and He knew that I was “more sinned against than sinning” (William Shakespeare-King Lear)– So, yes maybe he took care of me in every woe.
Every day, in moments of uncertainty, I spoke silently to the universe — not in words of complaint, but in affirmation. I manifested strength when I felt weakest; I reminded myself that I was being shaped, not shattered. Even in the darkest times, I sought small ways forward, doing what I could, reaching out where help seemed possible, and finding comfort in prayer and reflection. I was never alone so many pure souls helped me in overcoming the path that sometimes appeared so crooked. I bless all of them who held my hand so tenderly. Even when people turned away, or when those I expected support from stood silent, I discovered an unexpected grace to a realization that strength sometimes comes from solitude, and healing from silence. In those moments, I realised that the universe had never abandoned me; it had simply turned my gaze inward, to find the divine spark already there.
Moreover, my understanding of faith deepened through the scriptures that had long guided me. The Bhagavad Gita taught me about surrender and purpose, while the Guru Granth Sahib instilled in me a sense of humility, courage, and acceptance. Both revealed the same truth that life is not to be resisted, but understood; not to be feared, but lived with awareness and grace.
This book, in many ways, is born of that journey of faith over fear, of trust over doubt, and of the quiet power that allows one to rise again, and again, with gratitude.
The title Unravelling the Weave itself suggests both vulnerability and revelation. What does the metaphor of “weaving” personally mean to you?
To me, the weave is the story of life itself. A tapestry of emotions, experiences, and people who enter and leave, yet somehow remain woven into our being. Each thread represents a phase of my journey which represents moments of laughter, loss, struggle, courage, and quiet acceptance. Some threads sparkle with joy, others are faded with pain, but each one has meaning.
When I began writing Unravelling the Weave, I realised that my life had been made up of these countless threads which were strong and fragile, bright and shadowed, tangled yet deeply connected. The process of writing was not about undoing the weave, but gently understanding how it had come together. Every challenge, every silence, every act of faith had its place in the larger design.
The weave is also my connection with the universe, the invisible hand that ties everything together with purpose. At times, when I felt broken, I later discovered that the universe had simply been reworking my pattern and very quietly removing what no longer served me and strengthening what would carry me forward.
So, when I speak of unravelling the weave, I mean looking back with tenderness and truth and seeing how every joy and every wound added texture to the fabric of my life. It is a reminder that nothing is wasted, and that even when threads seem lost, they return in another form, completing the design in ways we never imagined.
The book encourages readers, especially youth and women, to rediscover their confidence. What do you hope they take away most from your story?
I want the youth and women who read my book to know that life, no matter how unpredictable, always holds the possibility of renewal. That courage is not the absence of pain, but the strength to face it and still move forward.
For the youth, I hope this book serves as a gentle mirror, showing them
that while the world today moves fast and values often blur, staying grounded in empathy, respect, and self-belief gives direction to every dream. I want them to understand that failure does not define them, on the contrary, it refines them. That fortitude and reflection are greater tools than rebellion or comparison. And that the universe truly listens to those who act with honesty and faith.
For women, I wish this book to be a quiet reminder that their worth is not tied to circumstance, validation, or sacrifice. That they can rebuild, rediscover, and reinvent themselves at any stage of life. I want them to see that strength need not always a roar or a scream or manipulation, however, sometimes it whispers in patience, grace, and persistence.
If my story can awaken even a spark of courage for even one person, I will feel elated and my purpose fulfilled. The bottom-line thought- that to rise after falling, to hold on to hope, and to live with both sensitivity and steel- is what life is all about!
‘Unravelling the Weave’ is not just my story. It is, in many ways, a reflection of countless others who continue to rise, heal, and begin again.
