The day I turned 40, I mentally replayed the years gone by. Aghast, I realised, I had spent most of my life in role-play… of a daughter, sister, student, friend, wife, daughter-in-law and mother. I no longer recognised who I was or what I wanted. I was merely engrossed in playing all these parts to perfection. So the questions arose,” What now? Who am I? Is this how I want to be remembered? “ The search for the answers helped me create my new identity – one which I am proud of because it is not modelled on any role.